My momma always said I can do anything I put my mind to!
Graduate High School✓
Graduate w/ Bachelors✓
Serve a Church Mission✓
Live in a Different Country✓
Certified Life Coach
Do a Ted Talk
Publish a Book
Certified Yoga Instructor
Start a Business
Lecture at a University
Start a Blog✓
Start a YouTube Channel✓
Buy a House✓
Read New Testament
Read Book of Mormon✓
Join a Humanitarian Project
Start my own Humanitarian Project
Learn a new Language✓
Take a Homeless out for Dinner
Take Speed Reading course
Do Splits 5 ways
Have 5 Streams of Income
Enjoy a week without Technology
Watch A Broadway Musical
Live in a 3rd World Country
Statue of Liberty New York✓
Sydney Opera House✓
Coromandel New Zealand✓
Queenstown New Zealand
Colosseum in Rome
Taj mahal India
Great wall of China
Pyramids in Egypt
Machu picchu in Peru
Israel the Holy Land
Road Trip for 6months
Snowboarding and Skiing✓
Ride Camel in Desert
Swim with Dolphins
Go on a Zipline✓
Ride a Gondola✓
Ride in a Helicopter
Go White Water Rafting
This is obviously not the final list as sometimes I change my mind about things! But there are also stuff that I am always adding to my Bucket List!!! Now get started on yours!!!
We all have them.. that negative inner voice that says
You aren’t smart enough
You aren’t brave enough
You aren’t pretty enough
You aren’t social enough
YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH
LIMITING BELIEFS are also disguised as
- Negative Thoughts
- Beliefs conditioned from culture or family
- Thought Patterns
- Perfectionistic Thinking
- Past failures
You are enough! And you can overcome these belief systems that hinder you from your true and ultimate potential. Look back in your life there are bound to be numerous examples when you decided that these belief systems were not going to rule your life. For me it was going to university and graduating from university.At one point I questioned if I was really smart enough and committed to go there and graduate. In relationships I would think am I am I doing enough to be loved? Do I even deserve to be loved?
These limiting beliefs have come from everywhere and anywhere, we have picked them up throughout our childhood and held on to them to define us. For me during my late teens it was such a simple sentence that this ignorant boy used “YOU CAN’T TALK TO ME UNLESS YOU LOOK LIKE THIS SUPERMODEL ON THE FRONT COVER OF THIS MAGAZINE” Even today this still haunts me as I have translated it to mean, I can’t accomplish anything great unless I look like her. Or sometimes I think okay once I lose weight I will definitly get the dream job or the success that I am looking for. Which it totally BULL!!!!! Our self limiting beliefs may have come from our environment, family, friends or even the media. As time goes on these beliefs get stronger and stronger and get proven time and time again because we live them and turn them into reality.
Can you imagine your life if you had no limiting beliefs, where your mind is an open and blank canvas. What would you do differently? Where would you be? Who would you become? Here are some steps and ideas to help you overcome your limiting belief systems.
- Think of a Dream, Goal you have but have failed to achieve
- What is your biggest excuse or reason for failure?
- Dig Deep and ask why do you use that excuse?
- What has made you accept that as your excuse?
- How is this belief or excuse helping me?
- What are things I can accomplish if I didn’t have this belief?
- What are the consequences if I stay with this belief?
- How would I feel if I overcame this belief?
- How would my life be different if I overcame this belief?
- Why should I change now?
- Am I committed to this new future?
These are questions to ask yourself as your evaluate whatever you limiting belief is. Whatever is holding you back is always just in your head. You do have the power to change your thought process and define your own future. If you have any further questions on this I would love to hear from you. Feel free to message me or comment below!!!
Our world is filled with so much negativity. It’s everywhere and can be suffocating if we let it, illness, depression, heavy work load, strained relationships or even world news. But with every problem we can always try and tackle it with some good old positivity, yeah I know it won’t make the problems go away but it may be able to help you bear the challenges are little better! Today I just wanted to share some tips on ways I try to squeeze in some bits of positivity throughout my day.
1. Start Right
Starting your day off to the right foot can make a massive difference in your day. First things first. Start the day with the things most important to you whether it’s through prayer, scripture reading or meditating or exercise incorporate this into your morning ritual. You will notice your day goes much smoother and feels satisfying. If you need to get upan hour b before the whole house wakes up do it!
2. Clear Clutter
Cleaning at least one area in the house will help you feel good about yourself. I know when you have kids sometimes it’s too easy to have a messy house. For me to keep myself sane I just clean one area and ban everybody from going there whether it’s my bedroom or a living room area. Having just a clean area can help you invite positive vibes into your environment.
3. Listen to Positive
Throughout the day if I am cleaning, organizing or eating I like to listen to motivational or uplifting podcasts. Generally I like to listen to these sometimes instead of music. Listening to these podcasts help with mood and also help educate me in so many ways. Podcasts are easier as I don’t have to sit in front of a screen, usually I do it when I am doing mundane tasks around the house or even better when I am driving long distances. Here is a list of self-improvement podcasts you should check out. My favorite is Christine Hassler she has been a help for me in getting clear with setting purpose and goals.
4. Act of Kindness
Do something nice for somebody else. When you help somebody it will ALWAYS I can guarantee, it will make you feel good and uplift you to a state of greater happiness. It is a WIN-WIN situation and it’s contagious. Doing a conscious act of kindness will give you the boost especially when you are feeling down and out!!!
What are ways that you maintain positivity in your life? Would love to hear your thoughts!!! Comment and Share if you found this useful!
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As this year is coming to a close, and thanksgiving is coming up, I would be so ungrateful if I did not recognize my many blessings through the year. I thought this would be a perfect time to reflect as december will be just hectic christmas beast mode time. This is by no means to boast because there really is nothing to boast about when all things are given to us from above, and nothing really does belong to us they are all His for His purpose. He is the giver and taker of all, we appreciate them while we have them and also appreciate them when we don’t.
This year has been a very eventful year. Had my first baby at the beginning of the year! YAY! She was born with a bilateral cleft lip which was a complete shocker to us! This was an extremely difficult time for me because I couldn’t help but blame myself. (the hormones didn’t help either) but we managed to get over blaming my bad eating and pregnancy cravings, or random cultural superstitions and loved her like nothing else. After her birth we were blessed with paying $2000 for a little newborn!! (love the healthcare system NOT!) Then to add to that we had more costs for her surgery as well.( fun fun fun) But as I count my many blessings I am so grateful that our insurance was able to help out and she is the sweetest blessing we have received!
After the baby was born we bought our first house. Had a fair bit of renovation work, painted the entire interior of the house and carpeted the whole house and tiled a few areas. Again I have to count my many blessings with the many people who helped us out with this project, especially my parents spending their entire vacation sanding and painting. With renting out the basement we have had to practice a minimalist style living, and I have also been able to do lots of fun DIY decor with random things around the house. I am also so grateful that we have awesome renters that are way too nice and are so awesome and pay on time!
A big milestone for me was for the first time in my life since I started working at 15 I did not have a real job of some sort. I was officially a “Stay at Home Mother.” It was extremely difficult for me at first as I considered myself an extremely independent woman! I didn’t have to rely on nobody. Can I just say how much it is a privilege it is to be able to stay home with my little baby and watch her grow every step of the way. We have been so blessed that my husband currently has a job that is able to support us while he is studying full-time and working full-time. My whole life I had joked about being a stay home mum but didn’t actually think it was going to come true. But iI have to say that this opportunity to stay at home may not always present itself so while it is here I will enjoy it and make the most of it.
Personally I knew that I couldn’t just sit and watch movies or YouTube or reality TV shows all day. I also knew that I didn’t want to clean my house all day everyday so I managed to find an outlet to keep me feeling “busy” and somewhat productive. This is what led me to officially starting this blog. I really didn’t have an end goal with the blog as there were so many things I am passionate about. I was also way too scared to start this blog because of what people would think about me!!!!! (Isn’t that sad that we live our lives because of what people think of us.) I knew that my grammar was terrible and I didn’t even know what to write about.I also didn’t want to be “oh another blogger” But eventually I had to overcome all my self-doubt and JUST DO IT! The majority of this year you I have been just playing around with several layouts, several logos as I went through this whole process. (thanks for bearing with me) So that’s why you have probably been seeing so many random things here and there. It was just me trying to figure things out, figure who I was, figuring out my style and where I wanted to go. Eventually I rediscovered my love for topics on self-improvement and self-development. I loved studying why people do the things they do and studying people’s behaviour. I also have had several impressions to focus in on strengthening the family and family psychology. So after a whole year of just blogging random posts, I have finally come to know my area.I feel that personal growth and family are two I know I need to learn and grow from the most and I feel like this is where I will thrive the most.
This past year I have grown a lot in terms of understanding and learning about my personal purpose and vision. I have set goals out financial and time freedom. I have progressed so much more than the first year with my relationship with my husband (but there’s the occasional freak out). I am always finding ways to improve myself as a teacher, mother and an example to my daughter. I am endeavouring to enjoy quality time with my daughter being present with her just being together without phones, cameras or any technology between us trying to capture each moment. I love being a mother and love my life (cliche I know).
In a few days I am privileged to visit my family for both my brother and sisters weddings. And baby also gets to have her first christmas with the family in New Zealand. Although our bank account has not increased whatsoever in monetary value this year we have been blessed with way more than we deserve. I am so grateful for a loving Heavenly Father who continually watches, protects and blesses us even though we don’t deserve any of it.
So with this reflection of this year there were plenty of both ups and downs. There are still many things I want to work on.. What are some of your reflections of the year behind us? What have you learnt? What do you want to avoid or repeat? Would love to hear your thoughts.
To be continued: Vision & Goals for the New Year
Last week I was super blessed to be able to attend an all women’s conference with some of the leaders of our church. We were privileged to be trained by the wives of our temple president, mission president, seventy and an apostle. It was such an amazing experience especially to have the opportunity for the spirit to teach us whatever message we needed to hear through these lovely ladies. There were lots of things that stood out to me but one that I would like to touch on today is that of..
What sign are they wearing?
This is a such wonderful phrase that if we memorize and keep it on hand all the time, it will be able to help us be kind to all those around us, love and be kind to those who may be mean or even attack us.
Take a second to imagine if every single person had a sign hanging from their neck letting people know the trials they were going through. Would you treat that person a little kinder? Would you let them in front of you in the line? Would you greet them with a smile? Would you let them pull into a carpark you were first to?
” I am going through a divorce”
” I just got diagnosed with cancer”
” I am feeling overwhelmed and stressed”
” I am trying to figure things out as a new mother”
” I am feeling lonely”
” I just lost my job”
” I just got into an accident”
There is nobody on this earth that is living a completely blissful life. We all have our struggles, insecurities, trials and challenges. Some may handle it or hide it better than others. We JUST need to be nicer to EVERYONE because the bottom line is We Don’t KNOW! Treat people as if we can read their sign hanging from their neck. If we make a conscious effort to remember this phrase and come from a place of understanding we ourselves will be able to attain joy beyond measure. Joy that will in turn help us with our own personal challenges.
Happy Friday my lovely friends
Why is childhood, such an important stage of our lives? In childhood we start to shape our value system, to learn about social connections and learn about life in general. After that, coming phase of puberty and what happened in those two stages can affect almost permanently on our lives. Till this time, we are already building our first experiences about life (good, bad experience, fears, love), also we learned about our feelings, emotions and how to express or depress it. Whatever our experience, we are starting to build the “patterns”. Personally, I like to use the word programs. The program is some believing or conclusion usually after the some emotional situation where we are repeating the same pattern of behavior. This kind of pattern can be repeated multiple times in the future and usually without understanding the reason or the core of the problem.
One of the hardest things in self-development is to become aware of this kind of programs and the second is to learn how to change it! Before we go deeper in into this subject, I would like to tell you the way I am describing using the technique or advice is what worked for me. You will need to adjust the technique your own personal circumstances.
I started this kind of practice 10 years ago and I remember that one particular sentence, my spiritual teacher said to me: “You can lie to everyone else, but you cannot lie to yourself!” That means you can choose how the other people see you, but who you really are, only you will know.
That meant my first task was to discover who I was. Also, my goal was to discover the reason why I was behaving certain ways. Was because of my “programs” or was it my true self. I started this journey with questioning every little detail about myself and my behavior. Continuously asking questions such as: “Why do you like this or that? Are you sure that you really like that person/situation or you just think you like it”. I questioned almost everything, I wanted to know what makes me happy, sad, mad or frightened and also, I wanted to know the reason why I am feeling certain ways (is it because of my programs, influence of the society, my fears, my ambitions or expectations from the society). I have already warned you, you need to build your own system of self-discovering. On this journey you will be faced with the best and the worst, darkest part of your inner self and can be very painful and hard stage of self-development. But at the same time, it’s a very important one, because you cannot change anything until you discover who you are and who you want to became. This process can take as long as you need. In my experience, I will never be done with it, but I focused on it for about 6 months and one year.
Recognition and Journaling
Some people can see that something is wrong with them, but they don’t know from where to start or even what to do as an action step. In that case, I am suggesting to use a diary or a journal. Every morning you can write tasks on the blank page of your diary. During the day, try to be aware of your feelings, thoughts and behavior. At the end of the day, write down your impressions and progress. Use open-ended questions to brainstorm answers for problems you may come across. Be creative with the ideas. Find different possibilities wherever you can.
Here is a simple example: Your goal is to develop awareness. During the day work on your task and are aware of your feelings, thoughts and emotions. At the end of the day write your own evaluation such as: More than half day my attention wasn’t in focus. I was angry at myself and that made me even more anxious. The thoughts I had during the task was very negative. After you finish with writing the report, ask yourself questions “What can I do to develop my awareness?” “What kind of practices do I need to apply and where can I find the sources for it”. “How can I become more successful in this exercise?”. Let your creativity get out and play.
The second phase is replacing the old programs with a new one. And in this part we will talk more about how different techniques can help you with this task.
Do you have old habits that people may think you need changing? Habits that you don’t think are bad? Let us know below!
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Reading this wonderful amazing post flooded me with so many happy thoughts! I couldn’t agree more with what Nikoya shared about executing your passions with purpose. This post stood out because my husband has been trying to figure out what he wants to do as a career after college. He says he loves sports and that sports is his passion he can never get sick of it. Fair enough right… but it didn’t sit right for me, and now I know why after reading her post.
Nikoya explains that just following your passions without real deep meaning or purpose behind it will not achieve the level of success or potential you have. She starts off by saying how when people say “follow your passion” is a common statement that is plastered everywhere, it makes us feel good but is a weak statement. Why you may ask?
Let’s look at passions, when I was 10 I was a passionate singer, at 15 I was passionate about acting, at 20 I was passionate about fashion and makeup, when I was 25 I became passionate about learning and studying people and their behaviours. She says that passion is not a requirement to your created purpose. Your passions may be a reflection of talents and gifts. Your passion is an emotion about something which gets you excited. Having passion is awesome and knowing your passions is powerful. But what will elevate your success is a combination of understanding both your passion and your purpose. There is also a warning if you don’t continuously center yourself with your purpose your passions may take you away from fulfilling your true purpose.
Until you understand your unique and true purpose, you may continuously live life doing things you are passionate about but not feel completely fulfilled. Your purpose comes from above, and in order to know your purpose you need to go to the fountain of all knowledge and power. For me I don’t have the complete big picture but I have enough to work on in the present time, as I complete them I get guidance for more. When you know your purpose you will then find a passion that grows from your purpose naturally. This is a more permanent passion that helps you continuously fulfill your purpose no matter the trials you come across.
I love this explanation of how Christ aligned his passion of helping and loving people with his divine purpose. Directly from her article as I couldn’t have written it better. “Listen, you think if Christ simply “followed his passion” in life that He would have died a long, bloody death on a wooden cross? I don’t think so. It was His understanding of His purpose that led Him to go to the cross to die. It was His trust in the will of the Father to die willingly. If He had simply, “followed His passion” first before knowing His purpose, He probably would have chosen to live a long life working in his trade as a carpenter, earning money, healing the sick, raising the dead, and teaching Kingdom principles.”
Figure out your purpose and from there your passions will align perfectly with your purpose.
Write down your passions and talents, how can they better fulfill your purpose?
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We live in a world where our mentality is that of scarcity. I remember taking an economics class in high school and the first theory we learnt is that of scarcity the definition being that there are limited resources, time money in the world. The idea of everything having a limit, makes us live in fear and worry. Scarcity can become your reality if you look at everything being physical and limited. Our minds are so powerful, once we create the thought habit of abundance – abundance will appear in that which you focus on. We create our own limitations because the universe is abundant.
If you want to live a life of abundance you will need to look through abundant eyes. Once you do this you will realize there is abundance in all things even in your life right now. The law of abundance states that we live in a plentiful world and that we have everything to make our life amazing.
We are spiritual beings in physical bodies
Many also look at things as limited and a competition. If somebody else gets this business I won’t. If you have money that means there is less money for me. Your abundance, your experience of abundance in no way removes or takes away from anyone else’s abundance. If you take a deep breath of air, you hold it and then you breathe out you have actually taken from abundance and still abundance remains
Our mind can create any type of world we want and with enough desire that world will manifest. If you want a world of abundance that is what will be your reality.
– Understand and Accept the concept of abundance – Knowing that we have a plentiful universe that we constantly are creating therefore there is always enough for everybody and more will help you get out of your little poor me syndrome.
– Recognize abundance in your life currently: What do you have plenty of? Do you have a lot of love from children or pets? Do you have sufficient income for your basic needs? Do you have
– Detach from the outcome: Once you have declared it holding on and worrying about it continuously will not bring you freedom. Do all actions that are necessary to achieve that goal but be willing to let it come when the time is right.E.G if you are looking for more love you don’t need to be consistently worrying about not having love just live each day improving yourself making yourself a better companion and when it all aligns it will come.
– Give Freely: Give give give you want love give love, you want money give money away to charities, someone in need or even on the street. Want more time share some of your time with others. Giving is one way to start feeling abundance instantly.
Are you feeling like you need more abundance in our life? What areas are you working on? What are you doing to achieve full abundance?
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Yeah we have all seen millions of those silly tests that tell you what era you belong in, what food you would be, what animal you would be depending on the questions you answer. But have you actually sat down and taken a proper personality test. If you haven’t I would encourage you to do so.
Why is knowing your personality helpful?
Knowing yourself is the first step to being able to improve ourselves. Knowing what makes us tick and what will enable us to move from point A to point B will help us have greater understanding and possibly be kinder to ourselves. Maybe I’m just saying this because I am very much a thinker and enjoy seeing motives for different actions. But I really do think it is extremely useful.
Personality is at the center of how we interact with each other on a daily basis, whether you are at work or at home. It provides a framework for understanding why our lives look like our own, and not like our neighbors. Whether we’re choosing a job, a partner, or even a home, our personalities drive our choices and shape the paths that our lives take.
Our personality traits can also influence the way we view and handle money. Each personality type is prone to some positive tendencies when it comes to spending, investing and saving. Each type shares some tendencies that raise red flags as well. A little introspection concerning these things can help build a more stable financial life.
It was crazy when I took my personality test and read the description, I felt like they were describing my life to a T. It even mentioned how I prefer long distance relationships because my imagination is not limited. This phrase summed up my thoughts and interactions with people,
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for – and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool – for love – for your dreams – for the adventure of being alive. Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It was like somebody knew how I was inside and out. I really thought I was the only weirdo who always asked people about their dreams, and what they would want to do if they had no limiting beliefs, but it’s good to know there are many out there with my same personality traits. If you haven’t taken your personality traits test google MBTI, Socionics Personality Test or anything similar. Then you can download an awesome app called Incognido that you can search for other people who have similar or different personality types. Incognido is 100% free to create an account, browse and search for other personality types.
***INNER BEAUTY SERIES***
This is a beautiful quote, I love that Kindness is referred to as Wisdom. Because wisdom is much deeper than just knowledge itself. Once we get past the knowing stage and actually pass through to actually attain understanding we will begin to see that no matter how much wisdom and knowledge you may have, being kind to yourself and others around you will trump it all. Wisdom gives you the understanding that Kindness will help you into heart of all those around you. Wisdom will allow you to see that kindness will break down negative and stubborn barriers. Kindness is wisdom in its purest form.
HumanKind – Be kind to other Humans!