At some point or numerous points in our lifetime we will come across a time when we will need to forgive others for wrongs that have been done against us. But many a time there will also be times when we will need to ask for forgiveness for wrongs we have done against others.
Forgiveness is a pill that we all need to swallow at some point so we too can benefit from it later on. To me it’s a double edge sword, I think that if I hold a grudge against someone I am hurting them but little do I realise the only person that I am hurting is myself. I heard a quote once that not forgiving somebody is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die. It’s so true when we don’t allow that person to be forgiven our freedom is taken away, we are letting that person govern our feelings instead of us taking control. The funny thing is the person that we have the grudge against majority of the time doesn’t realize we have it and our living a happy life unknown to your bitter feelings towards them. These bitter feelings can also cause other problems such as health problems, depression, anxiety if we don’t choose to release them through forgiveness.
I the Lord will forgive whomever I want but of you it is required to forgive all men.
How can we forgive someone who has hurt us?
- Take a step into their shoes many times people have their own issues they don’t realise. They may be reacting to problems that are going on internally. Having compassion and understanding and sympathy for them will help you forgive them and you may be able to help them come to a realisation of their actions.
- Take a look at the bigger picture. Has there been a time you have needed forgiveness? Ask yourself how would I feel if I wasn’t forgiven?
- Write a letter to that person. This doesn’t have to be sent to them this can be just for you to express your feelings towards this person and once its written you may want to burn it to symbolize your letting go and forgiving them.
- Pray for the spirit of forgiveness. Pray ask God to help you see that person how God views them. If you can envision this person in Gods eyes you may be able to develop a greater love for that individual.
Remembering that forgiveness is a two way street. Forgive in order to be Forgiven. Just because you forgive it doesn’t mean you will forget. And Forgiveness can take a long time for some people. It took my a couple of years to forgive somebody who is very close to me. We are all in our own journey of forgiveness but once you can release it you will gain freedom to move forward and have power of your life so you are not a victim to circumstances.
Forgiveness may cost you your pride but not forgiving will cost you your freedom
Best Wishes my lovelies! xox
What the heck is “Living Intentionally”?
This is an extremely broad area of conversation that can encompass many different lifestyles and situations. But for the sake of my blog and what I will be sharing, to me living intentionally essentially means living your beliefs to direct your life that you want and dream of, and by living those beliefs you are not aimlessly just going with the flow. You essentially have more control of what comes in and out of your life. It really is living your truth!
Living Intentionally reminds me of the scripture:
2nd Nephi 2:26 And because that they are redeemed from the fall they have become free forever, knowing good from evil; to act for themselves and not to be acted upon…
In this life there are things to Act and Things to be Acted Upon. We humans are not here in this life to just let things happen to us and to let life just pass us by. But we are here to be the movers and shakers in the world making things happen. We are not meant to be on the sideline watching the other players do their thing we need to be on the field playing the game doing our part to help whatever our cause and purpose may be!
Give Purpose and Meaning to everything you do whether you are a stay at home mother or a CEO of a company. You can live each day intentionally and on purpose. Ultimately you have the choice to determine your life. You choose what happens and if it’s something happens not in your control you can choose how to react to it. Here are some ideas you can be intentional with your Life.
- Understand You – Find out what you are really about. Often we are so busy running around trying to please our spouse, children, parents, work boss, church we forget to take time to really define who we are and know and understand ourselves fully. Take time to understand what you stand for your beliefs so you are not swayed with whatever comes your way.
- Evaluate your Environment – Are the people you hang out with supporting your beliefs? Does your work environment help you live your beliefs and ethics. What kind of culture is your environment moving towards are you being influenced by it? Is it pushing you further or closer to your purpose and beliefs and core values? Take the time to know what is happening before you just get swept along for the ride. This may mean at times you may be swimming against the current.
- Define your Life – As little kids we all had some kind of dream of what kind of life we would be living. Before we got married we had thoughts of how our marriage would be like. We had thoughts and ideas of ways we were going to raise our children. But when life happens those thoughts and dream seem to go out the window. Take some time to go back, reflect and evaluate those thoughts. Now define how you want your life to look like. Define your marriage, education, work, faith, health, your relationship with your children and parents. Taking the time to define how you want your life to be will enable you to see the actions you need to get to achieve those things. You will see the things are important to you and things that will disappear. Defining your life will give you the power to how your life will unfold. Don’t feel the pressure that it has to go perfectly or you have to know everything that’s going to happen, there will be bumps but we will always have something to fall back on to help us get back on track. Having some kind of document of how you want your life to look like will give you guidance so you don’t get sidetracked too easily by the things that don’t matter.
I believe that we all have our individual roles and purpose here, some roles are bigger than others but not the least bit less significant. Whatever our individuals roles and purposes be, let’s live them truthfully. Be courageous and intentionally with all that we do so we can feel deep fulfillment in the life that we live. I promise you that as you take time to define your life you desire you will be able to live it intentionally each and every day. Truly when the time comes we can say as Paul:
I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith 2 Timothy 4:7
My momma always said I can do anything I put my mind to!
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This is obviously not the final list as sometimes I change my mind about things! But there are also stuff that I am always adding to my Bucket List!!! Now get started on yours!!!
We all know that music can be such a powerful tool in our homes, work, church and even education learning environments. Children are taught through songs right from when they are born as they hear the melody and the words being sung to them from their mother’s lullabies. Children can feel a sense of calmness and security when they hear such familiar tunes. We too can be affected on a daily basis by the songs that we choose to listen to and influence our subconscious mind either positively or negatively.
I know for me whenever I get into the car there are just some songs that just take my thoughts into a negative space. So why not put that in my own hands and enjoy good music all the time. I also just love to listen to the music in the house especially during the times when I am cleaning to pump me up or doing a brain-dead job to keep me awake. Remember don’t feel like you need to fill your empty time with music sometimes it’s nice and refreshing to enjoy the peace and quiet every now and then.
Today I thought I would share my playlist of songs that I have created so I am being in control of what is coming and filling into my mind. My number one song is BRAVE by Sara Bareilles. This is a morning ritual song for Baby and I, we dance to this song for fun but also hoping that her subconscious will take in the message of being brave and amazing and not fearing those around her as she goes throughout her life.
P.S these are mainly my dancing songs so there are lots slower positive songs that I haven’t included
- Brave – Sara Bareilles
- Happy – Pharrell
- Where is the Love – Black Eye Peas
- I’m A Believer – Shrek
- Billionaire – Bruno Mars (Clean Version)
- Waka Waka – Shakira
What positive uplifting songs do you like to listen and dance too? Comment and Share your ideas and thoughts below. Don’t forget to create your own playlist and share with us!
Nobody is Exempt
Yes we all go through it, there are always going to be trials and hardship that we come across in our lifetime. It’s the reality of being human. To be honest I have never come anybody EVER that has not come across the bitter pill of adversity whether it was a loss of a loved one, depression, loneliness, or financial burdens etc… But just because we all go through it to some degree or another it doesn’t mean we should sweep it under the rug and try not to understand why we go through them.
A Continuous Transformation Process
Adversity is part of a continuous cycle we face being humans. This process is made up of 3 main steps, firstly experiencing and recognizing the hardship, weaknesses and flaws within us, second the transformation and change journey and lastly enjoying growth and reflection. Don’t worry it’s not over yet this cycle repeats itself over and over again many times throughout our life and as we continue to recognize more things we need to work on. From every hardship we go through we learn and can become a better person from that experience. (Also check out Grit Growth and Gratification blog post for an in-depth explanation of this transformation process.)
Take over the Reigns
There are some things that are just out of our control but we will only hurt ourselves if we worry about that which is out of our control. What we can work on and focus on is that which we do have control of which is ourselves our mindset and how we handle the adversity. We can choose to crawl up into a little ball and hope it will pass by or we can take it a day or a minute at a time. Here are some ways to have a positive outlook during this whole process.
Gratitude: One way to help you through adversity is to look at what there is good going on. Notice the small changes and celebrate the small progress.
Think Big: Look at the bigger picture. Look at where you are going how far you come sometimes just looking at today isn’t enough to show how much you have grown and developed.
Service: Helping somebody else in worse off situation helps you realize that there are other people suffering more than you
Support System: Lock in a good support group to be your cheer leaders along the way. We all need family or friends who will help us on this journey especially when you are feeling like you just want to give in.
Best Wishes my lovelies! Go rock the world!
We all have them.. that negative inner voice that says
You aren’t smart enough
You aren’t brave enough
You aren’t pretty enough
You aren’t social enough
YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH
LIMITING BELIEFS are also disguised as
- Negative Thoughts
- Beliefs conditioned from culture or family
- Thought Patterns
- Perfectionistic Thinking
- Past failures
You are enough! And you can overcome these belief systems that hinder you from your true and ultimate potential. Look back in your life there are bound to be numerous examples when you decided that these belief systems were not going to rule your life. For me it was going to university and graduating from university.At one point I questioned if I was really smart enough and committed to go there and graduate. In relationships I would think am I am I doing enough to be loved? Do I even deserve to be loved?
These limiting beliefs have come from everywhere and anywhere, we have picked them up throughout our childhood and held on to them to define us. For me during my late teens it was such a simple sentence that this ignorant boy used “YOU CAN’T TALK TO ME UNLESS YOU LOOK LIKE THIS SUPERMODEL ON THE FRONT COVER OF THIS MAGAZINE” Even today this still haunts me as I have translated it to mean, I can’t accomplish anything great unless I look like her. Or sometimes I think okay once I lose weight I will definitly get the dream job or the success that I am looking for. Which it totally BULL!!!!! Our self limiting beliefs may have come from our environment, family, friends or even the media. As time goes on these beliefs get stronger and stronger and get proven time and time again because we live them and turn them into reality.
Can you imagine your life if you had no limiting beliefs, where your mind is an open and blank canvas. What would you do differently? Where would you be? Who would you become? Here are some steps and ideas to help you overcome your limiting belief systems.
- Think of a Dream, Goal you have but have failed to achieve
- What is your biggest excuse or reason for failure?
- Dig Deep and ask why do you use that excuse?
- What has made you accept that as your excuse?
- How is this belief or excuse helping me?
- What are things I can accomplish if I didn’t have this belief?
- What are the consequences if I stay with this belief?
- How would I feel if I overcame this belief?
- How would my life be different if I overcame this belief?
- Why should I change now?
- Am I committed to this new future?
These are questions to ask yourself as your evaluate whatever you limiting belief is. Whatever is holding you back is always just in your head. You do have the power to change your thought process and define your own future. If you have any further questions on this I would love to hear from you. Feel free to message me or comment below!!!
As part of my 5 Values this year one of them being edifying my mind I am endeavouring to read a book a month and so here is my Book Review for January! This book was awesome in terms of helping me recognize things that I needed to work on in terms of working with people and communicating and understanding people.
There are so many things that I know I need to work on but here are the two main ideas that I know I really got from this book. The first idea is based on these two quotes.
“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
“God himself sir, does not propose to judge people until end of their days so why should you and I”
I love this idea as it’s an awesome reminder those who don’t know how to control their tongue in the end is the biggest fool. It takes little to no self control to just blurt out criticism, complain and judge people but it really takes character to be able to try and understand other people and their prospective.
“A man convinced against his will Is of the same opinion still”
This is also another awesome idea that I am struggling with. Telling somebody they are wrong isn’t always the best way to help them believe in your prospective so learning how to express your views tactfully and helping them convince themselves of your idea is ultimately the best way. This means a lot of patience and perseverance and understanding.
Have you read this book yet? What were your favourite ideas? Would love to hear!!!!!
Keep being amazing, Keep learning, growing and becoming the best YOU!!!
Our world is filled with so much negativity. It’s everywhere and can be suffocating if we let it, illness, depression, heavy work load, strained relationships or even world news. But with every problem we can always try and tackle it with some good old positivity, yeah I know it won’t make the problems go away but it may be able to help you bear the challenges are little better! Today I just wanted to share some tips on ways I try to squeeze in some bits of positivity throughout my day.
1. Start Right
Starting your day off to the right foot can make a massive difference in your day. First things first. Start the day with the things most important to you whether it’s through prayer, scripture reading or meditating or exercise incorporate this into your morning ritual. You will notice your day goes much smoother and feels satisfying. If you need to get upan hour b before the whole house wakes up do it!
2. Clear Clutter
Cleaning at least one area in the house will help you feel good about yourself. I know when you have kids sometimes it’s too easy to have a messy house. For me to keep myself sane I just clean one area and ban everybody from going there whether it’s my bedroom or a living room area. Having just a clean area can help you invite positive vibes into your environment.
3. Listen to Positive
Throughout the day if I am cleaning, organizing or eating I like to listen to motivational or uplifting podcasts. Generally I like to listen to these sometimes instead of music. Listening to these podcasts help with mood and also help educate me in so many ways. Podcasts are easier as I don’t have to sit in front of a screen, usually I do it when I am doing mundane tasks around the house or even better when I am driving long distances. Here is a list of self-improvement podcasts you should check out. My favorite is Christine Hassler she has been a help for me in getting clear with setting purpose and goals.
4. Act of Kindness
Do something nice for somebody else. When you help somebody it will ALWAYS I can guarantee, it will make you feel good and uplift you to a state of greater happiness. It is a WIN-WIN situation and it’s contagious. Doing a conscious act of kindness will give you the boost especially when you are feeling down and out!!!
What are ways that you maintain positivity in your life? Would love to hear your thoughts!!! Comment and Share if you found this useful!
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It is not happy people who a grateful it is grateful people who are happy!
Gratitude is a medicinal emotion, it lifts us up elevates our mood and fills us with real joy
Researchers are finding that those who exhibit and express the most gratitude are happier, healthier, and more energetic. Grateful people report fewer symptoms such as headaches, stomach-ache, nausea, even acne, and spend more time exercising! And the more a person is inclined towards gratitude, the less lonely, stressed, anxious and depressed he or she will be.
Gratitude helps us live a happier and enjoyable life. Being grateful for all that you have helps you feel abundant and to recognize what you have is enough.
Gratitude gets rid of comparing yourself to others, especially with lots of people on social media posting all their edited photos. Gratitude helps us be grateful for what we have and embrace what we have and not worry about what those around us have.
The other day we came from a little vacation and our heating system was down, our house was freezing cold. I was grumpy and tired but as I lay in bed I thought of how I grew up in a home with no heating system and we just had to bundle up warm. I was grateful that we had a heating system in this house and so that night I just bundled up warmer and slept like I did back in the days.Counting our Blessings name then one by one
How to be more grateful
- Gratitude Journal
- Express gratitude to others – Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone. ~G.B. Stern
- Write thank you notes to somebody
- Meditate or Pray
How do you show gratitude? How has gratitude helped you in your life? Let me know in the comments below!!! Be amazing and show gratitude today!!!!!
Lots of love