Repost from previous Blog
: Speak your Language!!
5 Ways to Preserve Our LanguageIn this day of age its not that cool to speak the language of your parents. Growing up in a traditional Tongan home I was mainly raised by my grandmother so that somewhat forced me to speak Tongan. But with my parents, who were exposed to more English through work, I got away with speaking to them in English. This then raises a few issues…Teachers in Primary Schools and Secondary schools are then faced with having to reteach English and undo some habits that have already been formed by the children.
The issue is that children are speaking BROKEN English and BROKEN Tongan (in my case). They don’t have either or.
Although our parents do have lovely intentions of trying to speak to us in English to get us to practice, or maybe they too are trying to practice for their sake. Personally for me more than anything we need to be sticking to the language we know best and cultivate it so that it becomes rich for our children. English will defiantly come in time and we don’t need to worry our kids will eventually learn English the proper way.Research shows that those who speak two or more languages have extra brain stimulation through out their entire life. Allowing them to be able to adjust to different circumstances and adapt to unexpected or unfamiliar events. A study that was done by Dr Brain. T. Gold from the University of Kentucky College of Medicine between those who spoke 2 or more languages and those who just spoke one language proved that both groups were able to complete the task, but those who spoke 2 or more languages completed it faster and used less brain power to do so. So why wouldn’t you want your children to learn and keep your language!! Here are some tips that I have seen have helped me and my family…
- Help them develop pride in who they are and where they came from. That their culture is what makes us who we are and unique
- Ensure that one parent always speaks the language to the child, if both parents go back and forth with the language it may get confusing for the child.
- Read in your native language. Growing up we always read the scriptures in Tongan even though we may not have known what we were saying but we were practicing pronunciation.
- Sing Songs. Its funny some songs that I didn’t even know the meaning of when I was little when I sing them now all the words come together and I finally understand what the song is saying.
- Set structure: If you have rules to only speak a certain language one week stick to it and try and be consistent with it otherwise its always easy to fall back to english
Most importantly have fun incoporaptating your traditional language with English. What are some of your tips for raising your children with two languages? Share or comment below!
My favorite month of the year!! Why you say.. because its my birthday month!!! Yay even better living here in the US its summer time and it feels like the whole country is in party mode this month! Fireworks and all!!!
So I have decided to set monthly goals to work on as I am all about personal development learning and growth. Because what better birthday present to give myself than a better me!!! I decided to set a goal for all 4 areas faith fitness family and finance, if it’s to much next month I will probably just cut it down to two.
Faith – 21 day Book of Mormon Testimony Challenge (our stake leaders challenge for us)
Fitness – Junkfree July (i know no birthday cake for me haha)
Family – No Social Media between 5-9pm – want to make sure I have QT with the family.
Finance – $20 Weekly Grocery Budget – So it can help me buy the necessary things at the grocery store to prevent wastage. (Usually there are lots of things at the bottom of the fridge that I forget about and end up having to throw away because I don’t use!)
What are your goals for this fabulous month? Would love to hear and see your progress! Wish me luck. Don’t forget how beautifully amazing you are!
So I may have a little obsession with glass objects & SPRAYPAINT!! Well you can’t blame me if there are tonnes of funky things you can do with them!! With being on a tight budget I can’t buy a lot of the super cute things I drool over in Target or other home decor places so that means I have to get a little creative…
You may wonder how I come up with projects. Well to tell you the truth I am a hoarder. I can’t and don’t throw things away because I always think I can turn it into something else. So if I am tempted to throw something away I first google “Repurposed ………(blank)…” If I don’t find anything that I like then I throw it away. Or if repurposed project is going to cost to much I just put it into storage until I can afford whatever I want to make.
These jars were gifts from our wedding… I think they were re-gifted to us because the box seemed worn out and old. We were planning on returning them to the store but didn’t find a store that sold them so we kept them and I made this little number. Not to bad for something we were going to take to the D.I.
These are old glass bottles that we found in our shed when we moved into our house. They were old medicine bottles. I thought they looked super cool so I kept them until I had some time to work some spray paint magic.
Some more vases that we found for free at a yard sale that people didn’t want. So we took them and transformed them to these little babies!
We were also given a box of mason jars from a friend with 30 or so jars. I have done lots of things with mason jars but here’s just one of the projects. This is for the bathroom obviously if you didn’t figure out what cotton balls and ear things are for. haha you will be seeing a few more projects with mason jars!
Stay tune for more fun home projects. I just have one rule of thumb when I do my projects it needs to be finished in a day. If it isn’t I won’t do it. Usually I am not motivated to finish projects unless I can do them in a day or else it takes me forever to do or I will half finish it. What are some of your home projects. Share comment below of more things you guys would like to see that takes less than a day haha
You are awesome! You really are!
Trust your Passion. Identify your Dreams then find the courage to share that with others, no matter how many times they call you a fool – Bill Strickland
We all have dreams and they do change at different times in our life for example when I was 5 I wanted to be a famous singer like Selena but as I grew older that grew dimmer as I realized I didn’t have naturally fabulous vocals and it required more time than I wanted to put in therefore I changed my mind about becoming a famous singer haha But today I wanted to share my dream board during this time of my life. I love visuals and this is perfect to get a quick overview. I did this activity with my husband when we first got married for a date night.
1. Protect The Family Unit 2. Live my Faith 3. Education is Ongoing 4.Serving continuously 5.Fill mind with Positive and Motivational messages 6.Strive for Financial Freedom 7. Own my own Ride 8. Live Comfortably 9.Mastering the basics Health Wellbeing 10.Teaching Sharing Building/Lifting Others 11. Perfect my Marriage 12. Create Adventurous Memories 13.Creating the home as a safe Haven for my family.
What does your dreamboard look like? Would love to see hear some of your ideas of that which you hope to accomplish in your lifetime! We can do it and push aside negativity that may be holding us back from reachingthose dreams!
Dad please remember these 10 things as we go through the first 18years of my life together..
1.You are my first love.
2. You are my first kiss and the first man I say “I LOVE YOU” to.
3.You are the one to show me what true and real love is.
4.You show me how a lady should be treated when you are with mum.
5. You teach me about selfless service when we watch endless princess movies with me when you would rather be watching a football game.
6.You teach me what security felt like every time you held me in your arms and give me those big hugs after work.
7. You teach me true beauty is when you say I need no makeup and tell me to show less skin
8.You will teach me about hard work and diligence each day you kiss me goodbye to leave for work.
9. You teach me what humility looks like when you mum starts unnecessary arguments
10. You are and will always be my HERO!
Fathers have such an important role in the family and is equally important to that of the mother. Never underestimate the ability of having a father in the home.
“By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. The family proclamation
It’s been awhile since I have posted but it’s because we have had lots of house projects going on…But all that aside today I have decided to write about my learning experience while buying our first home. We officially moved in on valentine’s day so it’s nearly been 4 months. Below is the time line of the whole process, a lot longer than most realtors would prefer, but was perfect for us!
Started House Shopping – August 2014
Found this house & Applied for Grant and Mortgage – November 2014
Put offer in – December 2014
Grant Accepted – January 2015
Closed – January 2015
Moved in – February 2015 YAY!!
Seeing it was our first time there were lots of unnecessary drama than I would have liked. Looking back to save us the hassle I would have preferred working with a realtor, but seeing the owner was going to just make us pay for the realtor by including it in the cost of the house we decided to forfeit on that idea. Luckily we had a awesome mortgage lady who helped us out a tonne!!!
Here are my 9 tips for Before you buy your first home!
1. What can you afford? You decide what you canNot what the bank tells you you can afford!! Go over your expenses and your income. Seeing my husband is still a full time student and working full time, and assuming eventually I will become a stay home mum we only factored in one income. This was a safe option for us because we never wanted to be estimated on two incomes just incase one of us lost our jobs. Good rule of thumb for us was to keep our house payment between 1/4 to 1/3 of our monthly income. So if I earn $4000 a month then house payment should be approx $1000. (I know I am being extreme with this staying on the safe safe safe side.)
2. Location. This comes in handy once you decide to sell your house. A key selling point is if there are good schools in the area many families look to this as one their top priorities when buying.
3. Duration of Stay. My husband and I decided that we were wanting this house to be ours between 5-7 years. If you don’t stay in a house long enough you end up losing more money with all the transaction costs that are involved. So ensure that you are in it for at least 3 years or rent until you are certain about your purchase.
4. Goals. We set a goal that if we were to buy a house we were going to rent out the basement. This was an important criteria to us because my husband was working and studying and I would eventually be staying at home with the kids so we needed some kind of replacement for my income. Researching the renting market in our area we figured that renting out the basement would cover our monthly mortgage payment and all we would have to pay for would be utilities. To be honest it was extremely hard finding a house that met this criteria and within our budget but we managed to compromise a little to find a house that we could rent out the basement.
5. Emergency account. I cant stress this enough make sure you have some cushion in this area. We set aside at least 6 months of savings just in case something broke in the house a car or a emergency trip to NZ. haha If you don’t have a good chunk of savings you could end up kissing that house goodbye before you know it.
6. Investment not a love affair. Use your head rather than your heart to buy a house. Yes it needs to feel right but at the end of the day your house is an investment asset. The colour of paint or carpet or location of the kitchen will not add to the bottom line.
7. Newer isn’t always better. There are many out there that flip houses don’t get me wrong I love them shows! But when a slab of paint and new carpet can justify them increasing the price $40,000 HECK NO!!! Let me do the work for $5000. We all love the feeling of walking in to our house already done ready for living but calculate how much you would be saving if you did the work yourself. And TBH who really wants to move into a fixer upper NO ONE! But if you are like me and have the time on your hands and have awesome family members who are kind enough to help out it may be worth saving you $35,000 or more!
8. Savings. You need to have a good chunk saved up for emergency money AND your down payment. We calculated how much downpayment we needed by working out how much we wanted to spend each month.. Because we wanted our monthly payment to be lower we had to put in a higher down payment. So be prepared with your savings! Make sure not to put all your money in your down payment and then nothing for emergency try find a good amount for both. Another thing we also did was we stayed for free at an elderly lady’s house and did work around the house for her for a year. If you don’t mind a situation like that, you may be able to rack your savings up faster or just live at home with the parentals!
9.Funding Programs. Last and final tip is do your research for FREE MONEY! We applied for a housing grant that gave us $5000 which was awesome, they do have some requirements as in you need to earn under a certain amount and the house needs to be your primary residence. But that helped us out significantly for our down payment.
Are you looking to buying or do you prefer renting? Have you recently just bought a house what would your tips be? Comment and share your thoughts below!
Our good old trusted friend you may have seen him in meals like…
Boiled Taro and Coconut cream or boiled green bananas and coconut cream or one of my favourite lu sipi!!!Growing up I always thought coconut cream was bad and fatty but I didn’t realize how many goodies it has in it till I started following this Coconut frenzy!!!
So if it’s so good lets try use it in more things .. here are some extra ideas for how we can use other than in those heavy sunday meals!!!!
1. SMOOTHIE!!! super easy 3 ingredient recipe found at wholeyum.com
2. MILKSHAKES! Another easy 3 ingredient recipe here on wearenotmartha.com
3. SOUPS A favourite of mine are Thai Chicken Soups just switch coconut milk for coconut cream! DELISH
4. PORRIDGE spice up your porridge recipe with some coconut cream. (p.s you don’t need to get this fancy!)
5.WHIP CREAM! Instead of normal cream use coconut cream for a healthier alternative!
What are some of your favourite ways you use coconut cream?? Or do you prefer the normal old school way? Share, comment below! Would love to hear your ideas.
1. You aren’t dumb because you suck at math and science! Embrace your other talents whether it be painting singing or selling your lunch to the other kids…
2. You are allowed and can question your teachers.. its a misconception that just because they are your teachers they are right all the time… stellar teachers will make that known to you!
3.You don’t need to fit into any group. Be yourself and you will attract friends who like you for you.
4. Build fun memories! Just have fun being a kid, grow up slowly! You have the rest of your life to do adult things. Be silly, be crazy do dumb silly stuff that won’t hurt or injure anybody physically, mentally or emotionally.
5. Failure is NOT bad or means you are dumb.Wow you failed a test.. at least you are closer to finding the right answers. Failure occurs once you stop trying!!!!
6. You don’t need lots of friends just real friends.
7. Dont freak if you don’t know what you are going to be when you grow up… just keep moving forward doing what you love and doors will open up.
What things did you wish you knew in high school? SHARE, Comment below!
How many of you were embarrassed by your parents growing up?… tell the truth… what your friends might think of them in their lavalava and jandals or hearing them talk in their fob accent. Going to a predominantly white primary school this was always my fear, especially when it came to parent interviews.! But now I can say I am loud and proud of their fobness. I’ve finally just learnt to embrace it after all these years! But just want to take a moment to share the wonderful lessons my fobby parents managed to teach a prideful self-centered teenager.
- Education – I learnt to value Education. My parents would say… “Ged a gud edugation” (in their accent) “If I went to school here I would already have a degree! See the kids on the island they all want to come here to go to university!” These phrases would be on repeat like a broken record. Education was always the topic when we had family meetings, dinner, or when we did something bad. Somehow everything was tied back to school whether it was doing the dishes or watching tv they would always manage to link it back to the topic of education.
- God – I learnt to trust a higher being. How many of you get annoyed your parents “force” you to go to church? You had a late night and they still kicking you out of bed to go to church! This was mine, but it was during those hard times when I couldn’t talk to my parents or friends I knew I could trust God. I knew He would understand me when no one didn’t. I could talk to him through prayer and He would communicate to me through the scriptures.
- Sacrifice – I learnt the importance of hard work. We all have stories of how our parents had to and still work long hours, at several different jobs. Dad had been a taxi driver, worked at a supermarket, also studied part-time, while mum worked graveyard shift in a factory! If this isn’t sacrifice I don’t know what is?
- Take Risks – I learnt to take calculated risks. Can you imagine leaving your family, friends, all that you knew to come to a country where you didn’t even speak the language, and you didn’t even feel welcomed. Moving from a kickback to a fast pace money driven economy. Talk about their worlds being flipped upside down. What if they never took this risk, where would I be? What are you doing to take it to the next level for your family and your future generations?
- Give Give Give – I learnt to give freely. So many times my parents gave away our clothes, money, time, our space to anyone and everybody who needed. I was always annoyed and frustrated because I was always being inconvenienced. I remember my 3bedroom house being occupied by 3different families. No matter how little they had they were always willing to give.
- Gratitude – Be grateful for whatever you have. There is always someone in the world who is worse off than you. We had so “little” in comparison to the kids in my school, we bought second hand clothes and only got new outfits for christmas. To my parents we were spoilt but to my friends I was poor. Gratitude is a perspective that you define. Choose to be grateful.
My Amazing Parents!
I am loud and proud of my parents and their achievements in their lifetime. It may not be deemed like much in the eyes of society but their works speak volumes and have paved the path for many generations to come.
What are some lessons that your “FOB” parents have taught you? Share, comment like!
Be the change you want to see in the world! – Ghandi
A favorite quote of mine and one that I wish to apply in my daily living.
Change for some is difficult and for others becomes a bad habit. The change I wish to delve into is that which makes a stronger, bolder, tougher and better!
In our personal life, family, school or work what do we know we need to change but just can’t scrummage up the courage to do so? Changing a habit requires effort mental toughness and perseverance. This blog is a record of all the many changes my family and I are applying into our lives. some may be small and take a few minutes while others may take years before results are evident.
Change is happening whether you are conscience of it or not…if you are not aware change it happening it usually means it’s slowly going downhill if you make yourself aware that change is always happening, this will enable you to channel it to benefit you and help you. E.g If I just continue to not exercise and eat as I did when I was a teenager, I think I am staying the same and nothing has changed, but what I don’t notice is my health is declining with the lack of exercise and nutrition that my body really needs. My body is getting changing for the worse without me even knowing because its so subtle. Therefore if I recognize that change is occurring all the time I am able to start doing something about this like go for a walk or make healthier food choices. The same thing happens with finances, with relationships etc if we are not trying to improve they are usually going backwards!
Just start with something small to change, whether its a page of a book or say a prayer. You don’t have to change and save the world from hunger, or find a cure for aids. Just start with yourself and the ripple effect will begin!
What are some things you want to change or improve for the better? Share comment below would love to hear from you